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'Boy Meets World' stars stood by convicted child molester. It's not uncommon, experts say.-VaTradeCoin

Two "Boy Meets World" stars have revealed they had a close friendship with an adult guest star on the show, who later was convicted of child sexual abuse. The stars also shared that they initially supported this person in court, before eventually seeing him as a predator.

The experience they described is not atypical for many who experience grooming or abuse or who have a close relationship with a perpetrator, experts say, and it can be a reason why some victims take a substantial amount of time before coming forward with their allegations.

"That's very common, unfortunately," says Jim Struve, the executive director of Men Healing, an organization that provides resources to men and boys who have been sexually harmed. "The reality is most people know their offender. ... You have some loyalty, you have some investment, you have some history with the person."

'Boy Meets World' star Will Friedle calls supporting Brian Peck his 'ever-loving shame'

"Boy Meets World" stars Will Friedle, Rider Strong and Danielle Fishel discussed on Monday's episode of their podcast, "Pod Meets World," their relationship with series stand-in Brian Peck, who appeared on two credited episodes, as a background actor in Season 6 and as the character "Ookie" in Season 7. USA TODAY has reached out to a representative of Peck for comment.

Peck was arrested in August 2003 on a charge of lewd acts with a child, according to a press release from the Los Angeles Police Department. The arrest stemmed from a 2001 incident in which the actor allegedly molested a child he was coaching over a six-month period. Fishel noted during the episode that Peck was subsequently "convicted and spent 16 months in prison."

Friedle and Strong said Peck, despite being in his late 30s at the time of production, quickly befriended the young actors. "This guy had so ingratiated himself into my life," Friedle said. "This was the type of thing where the person he presented was this great, funny guy who was really good at his job and you wanted to hang out with."

What they said:Will Friedle, Rider Strong allege grooming by 'Boy Meets World' guest star Brian Peck

When Peck was arrested in 2003, Friedle and Strong said he framed his legal trouble as an incident in which he was victimized by the minor he was sexually involved with. Friedle even recalled going to court to show support for Peck, along with other child stars the actor knew.

"We're sitting in that courtroom on the wrong side of everything," Friedle said.

"There's an actual victim here. And he turned us against the victim to where now we're on his team," Friedle added, calling his support of Peck his "ever-loving shame." "That's the thing I can't get over and haven't been able to get over."

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It's common to not realize someone's a predator until later

Experts say Friedle and Strong's changing view of Peck is a common experience for those who have had close relationships with or been groomed by predators.

Beth Tyson, a psychotherapist and childhood trauma consultant, says predators often treat some people in their lives well in order to preserve their credibility. Predators do this, she says, so they can have supporters, should they ever get accused of wrongdoing by someone else.

"They will act like a stellar human being in front of the people they are not abusing in order to have people in their corner who will unknowingly discredit their victims," she says.

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For men and boys in particular, Struve says it can be especially challenging to come forward with allegations of grooming or abuse. This is because, he says, our culture tends to not view males as potential victims of sexual misconduct, even though that's wholly inaccurate; Researchers have found at least 1 in 6 men have experienced sexual abuse or assault.

Male survivors face unique challenges because of stereotypes around masculinity that suggest men are not victims, men can handle it, men always enjoy sex. 

Some men will refuse to share what happened to them or even admit the trauma to themselves. This, combined with positive memories associated with the predator, often makes it harder to see abusers for who they really are, Struve adds.

"I think if the offenders were strangers, it might be easier to turn around and accuse them," he says. "But it's that entanglement with the person. You have some degree of contact with them before the victimization generally happens."

Those who are manipulated by abusers in this way can experience symptoms of trauma, anxiety and depression, Tyson says. "These people are the invisible victims and are used like pawns."

If you are a survivor of sexual assault, RAINN offers support through the National Sexual Assault Hotline (800.656.HOPE and online.rainn.org). 

MenHealing provides resources and services for adult males who have been sexually victimized during childhood or as adults. You can visit their website for more information or follow MenHealing on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter. 

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Contributing: Edward Segarra